I use attachment-based and somatic therapy to help high-achieving adults understand relationship patterns, build self-trust, and create healthier relationships with themselves and others.
If you find yourself people-pleasing, struggling to set boundaries, fearing rejection, or losing yourself in relationships, these patterns may be connected to your attachment style. Early experiences, family dynamics, and cultural expectations can shape how we relate to ourselves and others.
I work with high-achieving adults, including first- and second-generation individuals, who want to strengthen self-worth, understand their patterns, and create lasting change.
Attachment- Based Therapy in NY & NJ
What are Attachment Styles?
Attachment styles are the ways we learn to connect with others based on our earliest relationships. They influence how we experience trust, emotional safety, boundaries, intimacy, and conflict. While these patterns begin in childhood, they can change through therapy and new, healthier experiences.
Secure – Comfortable with closeness, trust, healthy boundaries, and independence.
Anxious – Fears abandonment, seeks reassurance, overthinks relationships, and often people-pleases to maintain connection.
Avoidant – Values independence but may struggle with vulnerability, emotional intimacy, or asking for support.
Disorganized – Desires closeness while fearing it, often leading to confusing relationship patterns and difficulty trusting others.
The Four Attachment Styles
How Family and Cultural Expectations Shape Attachment
For many first- and second-generation adults, attachment patterns are influenced not only by childhood relationships but also by family roles, cultural expectations, and immigration experiences. You may have learned to prioritize achievement, avoid conflict, care for others before yourself, or suppress your own needs to maintain harmony.
These strategies may have helped you adapt growing up, but over time they can contribute to anxiety, people-pleasing, perfectionism, difficulty setting boundaries, and self-abandonment. Therapy isn’t about rejecting your family or culture, it’s about understanding which patterns still support you and which ones are keeping you from building healthier relationships with yourself and others.
Understanding Attachment-Based Therapy
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Attachment-based therapy helps you understand how your early experiences shape the way you relate to yourself and others. Together, we’ll identify the patterns that keep you stuck and build healthier ways of thinking, feeling, and connecting.
I combine attachment-based therapy with somatic therapy because healing involves both the mind and body. By learning to regulate your nervous system, you can reduce anxiety, strengthen self-worth, set healthy boundaries, improve communication, and build more secure relationships.
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In therapy, we’ll explore the experiences that shaped your attachment patterns while learning practical tools to create lasting change. We’ll work together to identify unhealthy relationship patterns, strengthen self-worth, regulate your nervous system through somatic techniques, and develop healthier ways of communicating, setting boundaries, and connecting with yourself and others. Therapy is collaborative, supportive, and tailored to your unique goals and experiences.
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Yes. While attachment styles develop early in life, they are not permanent. Through self-awareness, secure relationships, and attachment-based therapy, it’s possible to develop healthier patterns of relating. As you build self-trust, regulate your nervous system, and practice new ways of connecting, you can move toward a more secure attachment style and experience healthier relationships.
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Attachment-based therapy may be right for you if you:
Struggle with anxiety or overthinking in relationships.
Put other people’s needs before your own.
Feel guilty setting boundaries or saying no.
Fear rejection or abandonment.
Find yourself people-pleasing to keep the peace.
Feel pressure to meet family or cultural expectations.
Lose yourself in relationships.
Want a healthier relationship with yourself and others.